**And What They Don't Tell You
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My day starts at 5AM. After an hour of self-care/meditation/me-time, my day begins. I’m getting ready for work, for ballet, for yoga, for pilates, trying to remember all the vitamins I need to be taking, make sure I don’t forget to eat, make sure I don’t forget to drink enough water, make sure I don’t forget all of the files I need, my wallet and keys, etc. My day doesn’t end until about 10:30PM. That’s a really long day. Oh, and we need sleep. Fit that in too.
People often ask me this one question: “How do you do it?” Ha! The truth is, I have no idea. The truth is I run my life at a speed of 180 miles an hour, every hour of my day is scheduled and blocked off with something to do. My google calendar tells me there’s always something to be done. There’s a reason I tell my clients to schedule me in at least 3-5 days in advance because I always have something going on.
And may I just throw out a disclaimer: I’m not a successful businesswoman. I’m not an expert. I’m just an 18-year-old woman with high aspirations and a passion to go after the life I want. This is what I’ve learned in my process so far, since I was a 16-year-old in business. I don’t know anything, but I’m learning, and learning is the first step to having a successful hand in your sphere of society.
People asked why I chose to go down the path of business. Truth is, being a ballet dancer takes a lot of finances to get the training you need to become a professional, amongst other things. It also takes up a great deal of time. What most people don’t realize is ballet dancers aren’t just going to class. We take pilates, yoga, and most of us go to the gym and do strength training and cardio work. We’re practicing at home, not to mention taking injury-prevention time so we can continue on doing what we love. So, where do I find time to fit even a part time job into all of that? There was no way.
My mom was amazing and helped me realize that the only way I would be able to begin to provide for myself was for me to create & work a home based business. I started Ellie Rose Services and provide a variety of services for families and individuals, and I invested in opening my own business development centers with Market America to create residual income. So now I have a business that will provide for now, and a business that will provide for now all the way into the future. It’s the best of both worlds.
What I’ve Learned
Many self-employed people I am friends with talk often about the perks and the joy they get from being their own boss, things such as not having to deal with a boss, choosing your own hours, giving yourself a day off on whatever day you want, taking spontaneous trips with friends or family, etc.
What they don’t ever really mention is the discipline it takes to be your own boss. I learned that pretty much immediately. Thankfully, ballet has given me a head start in the department of discipline, but that doesn’t make it any easier. Being your own boss requires:
Time Management Skills.
Follow Through & Follow Up.
Being On Time.
Finding & Using The Concept Of Leverage.
The Ability To Say No (and not care if people get offended).
Set Boundaries. And Stick To Them (a.k.a. don’t be a pushover).
Respect & Honor.
Understanding That Your Time Is Valuable.
The Ability Get Past Burnout & Loss.
Be Unafraid To Create.
The Ability To Overcome.
The Ability To Be Kind To Yourself.
Emotions & Business Don’t Mix.
An Open Mind To Learn Everything You Can.
Have A Clear Vision.
Sticking To Your Strategy.
Establish Your Why.
Be Willing To Leave Your Comfort Zone. And Leave It. As Much As You Can.
You Are Responsible For Your Own Success & Your Own Failures.
This blogpost will turn into a book if I go through every single one of these requirements, which is why you may be happy to know that this is a series. But I am going to hit that last one: YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR OWN SUCCESS & YOUR OWN FAILURES.
Look, if you want to be a successful business person, you better be prepared to go through hell and high water. You better be prepared to not get offended when things don't go your way, and you better be prepared for the mountain of rejection that will be dropped on you. Not might. Might is not a thing. It’s either it happens or it doesn’t.
You are responsible. I am responsible. In my case, I am responsible for how much money I am or am not making. I am responsible for the clients I manage. I am responsible for training my business partners and responsible for being teachable by my business partners and peers. I am responsible for how hard I work. I am responsible for the way I treat my clients and partners. I am responsible for waking up in the morning and getting to work. I am responsible for booking those meetings or making those calls.
I was having a chat with a friend and she said to me, “I keep telling myself to trust the process.” I replied, “Yep. But sometimes you gotta stop telling yourself to do something and actually just do it. So stop telling yourself to trust the process and actually trust in the process.”
I am responsible for the fact I’ve only told myself to make those calls, and also for the fact I haven’t followed through with doing it. And the fact I haven’t made those calls yet puts me one day or one week or one month further away from hitting my goal. The reason? We’re so afraid of leaving our comfort zones.
Maybe you’re thinking, “No! I’m not afraid of leaving my comfort zone!” HA!
Everyone is afraid of leaving their comfort zones. Heck, I’m afraid to leave my comfort zone on a daily basis! Maybe consciously, you’re not afraid to leave your comfort zone. Maybe you’re not afraid of the idea to leave your comfort zone. However I guarantee your subconscious is terrified of leaving your comfort zone. Mine certainly is, trust me, but now I’ve become conscious of the fact that I am scared to leave my comfort zone and the fact that it is a very terrifying thing for me to do.
If you’ve been telling yourself to do something for X amount of time but still haven’t done it, it’s because you’re afraid to leave the Land of Familiar to branch out into The Unknown. And unfortunately, you are responsible for whether you choose to leave or stay in the Land of Familiar.
So, you have a choice:
Stay in the Land of Familiar and never know your truest potential, tell yourself to do something and never follow through with it and stay stuck where you are for the next 75 years…
Leave your comfort zone, take a leap of faith into The Unknown and trust the process, not telling yourself to trust the process, but actually trust in the process. Who knows? Maybe you’ll encounter amazing things, maybe you’ll become more than you ever could’ve dreamed, maybe you’ll learn that in The Unknown, you’ll find your purpose, you’ll find out who you are, and you’ll become all you want to be.
It’s simple! Do, or Don’t Do. And, yeah, I get it. It’s a lot easier said than done, and you know what, the truth sucks. It sucks that we’re responsible for who we are and who we become and where our life goes. But it’s also really amazing! Listen to me: YOU CAN DO THIS. I BELIEVE IN YOU. You are worth more than you realize, you are smarter than you feel, you are more powerful than your situations & circumstances, and you get to create your world.
So tell me, what world are you going to go out there and create?
Life is like a game of Tetris: if the pieces don’t fit together, look for a new angle and make it fit. You can have it all, you just have to be smart enough to make it fit. - Philip Pegler
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